Inside the magic circle of diets
Emotional overeating (the connection between emotions and excessive weight)
Do you eat to live or do you live to eat?
If you have a problem with excessive weight, you must have asked yourself this question. You are constantly on a diet and you feel like you are working against yourself. You eat exactly the things you know you shouldn’t, but you can not help it? It is time that you stop feeling guilty about that. Overeating is a natural reaction to how you feel. The psychology of human needs illustrates how we satisfy 6 human needs in all the aspects of life on a daily basis: the need for security, the need for variety, the need for importance, the need for love and connection,
the need for personal development and growth, the need to contribute to others.
We can satisfy each of these needs in a positive, negative or neutral way. When we satisfy our needs in a positive way we feel good, we are fulfilled and happy. When we satisfy them in a negative way we feel blue, dissatisfied and self-destructive.
Guilt in every bite
One of the most common negative ways of satisfying need is excessive consumption of food. When we satisfy at least three needs (from these 6) by behaving in a certain way, we become addicted to that behavior. When I say “needs’’ I am referring to these 6 needs and not only on hunger. What needs do You satisfy by eating food (apart from hunger)? When you eat the things you love, you feel safe-there is no uncertainty about what will happen when you eat a candy bar. In you every day life that constantly repeats itself (work, home), preparing all sorts of sweets and delicacies is maybe the only way to break the pattern-that’s how you satisfy your need for variety. There is a lot of creativity and dedication when it comes to preparing food. By doing so, you get in touch with yourself and satisfy the need for love and connection. But also the need for importance because you are constantly doing something even simply consuming food that is not healthy or is in much bigger amount from the one you need to satisfy your physiological need of hunger. The thing that is wrong (apart from your blood test or bad joints) is the constant feeling of guilt.
At the EMOTIONAL OVEREATING training you find the right strategy to overcome that self-destructive circle FOOD-GUILT-FOOD.
Comfort in chocolate
What makes more sense to you: pushing a car uphill or driving in it to the top of the hill?
Most diets you tried is like pushing a car uphill. A car is not meant to be used in that way. Even if you try, you will soon get tired and give up, as it has happened many times when you managed to hold on to a diet for a while only to quickly go back to your previous weight and the prevailing diet regiment.
At the EMOTIONAL OVEREATING training you jump into a car and drive to your goal. Instead of opposing the natural subconscious impulses you start to use them and develop healthy habits when it comes to dieting and health.
You know well what to do, but you don’t feel that you can make yourself to do it and learn to like it. That is the important difference between ways you used to maintain a diet up to now. The conscious part of your brain KNOWS what to do, but the subconscious part is fighting back without even engaging. When you don’t feel like doing something (in this case we are talking about dieting), you subconscious is involved.
Excessive food consumption is a way in which your subconscious fights with an emotion that is causing the conflict. The thing that your conscious knows is that FOOD DOESN’T SOLVE THAT PROBLEM AT ALL. Imagine if your roof was leaking and you decided to paint your room red. You picked the wrong solution.
Somewhere in your past you picked the wrong behavioral pattern to solve problems, or the emotion that appeared. You developed a bad habit. Maybe you had help from someone (mother or grandmother). When you were in a bad mood, they gave you chocolate to make you feel better. Or maybe in your house, food was never thrown away? It was a prerogative to eat everything on the plate, even tough it was too much.
The thing that you will learn at EMOTIONAL OVEREATING training is to scratch when you have an itch, without taking chocolate.
Photo by Sanja Rajković